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I had a terrible headache last night. Terrible.Massive. It felt like there were hands just pressing my skull to squeeze out any kind of mental life. My whole head hurt and felt pringly. Pins and needles. There was some fever. In fact while driving back from work, late at night. I was swerving this way and that but reached home safe. Thank god. Once home, I first collapsed on the sofa. Then went to the bathroom and puked. And then collapsed on the bed. Then went to the other bathroom and puked some more. Then collapsed on that bed. My friend, who is the healer in Delhi, Jagdeep Kaur, had once told me that when you are facing any kind of problem, especially an ache of some sort, you breathe deep. It didn't help immediately but I had slept off until the next round of nausea hit. This time, after throwing up, I washed my face a million times, I think. Splashed cold water and then hot water and then cold water and then hot water again. This also helped. Then I got hungry. Warmed some

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Nine more days until my last day at the job. I have no plans but I have some ideas on what I'll do next. Source: www.pexels.com Maybe I don't have many more days in Pune although I would like to finish the rest of my 512 days here - just to see if I finish any kind of unfinished business here. Not sure what's in store. Just that today, while breaking my head over a rather tough piece of assignment, I thought. I thought that even on days that I didn't write, I still existed.

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Yesterday involved stopping for ice-cream on the way home from work. Then a late night drive with a friend to a cemetery. Ice-cream was insipid. Cemetery was not.

514 - driving off

My wallet was stolen four years ago. I lost my driver's license with it. So now I drive around without one. But I am really careful and break no signals or drive rashly or anything. If I see a police car on the road, I take a by-lane and wait there until it passes. If I see cops on the road, I behave really well. Not that I wouldn't do any of this if I did have the license but I try to avoid anything that will get me on the radar. Source: www.pexels.com  What this has meant though that I can't drive in other cities and I can't go on long distance drives. But this Sunday I just got fed up with feeling so constrained so I drove down to Bombay. This was the first time I was driving on the highway by myself and it was just so glorious! Given that the decision was spontaneous, I wasn't carrying any cash when I drove off from my house but my sweet little car, music, sunlit roads and mountains and clouds that somehow seemed so much more mystical from the driver

515: The needy part of being human and on having taste of one's own medicine

Source: www.pexels.com So we know by now that, at times, people may not be ready for or want to be in a relationship. Sometimes those people feel pressurized - societal, parental, peer, and maybe even internal. That is not correct but I reckon that a person who may feel that way will find some degree of compassion somewhere.   What I find odd is the reverse. That if one is actually keen on being with a partner, then the guy who may want this is desperate and the girl who may want this is needy. If the person displayed the same focus in the pursuit of a sales target or topping a class or becoming really fit or whatever, that same focus and clarity is applauded. Or if it's a little excessive, then the person may be asked to rethink the strategy or tone down the zeal but the person sure as hell isn't dismissed for being 'needy' or 'desperate'. What makes it so crazy to be acutely focused on being ready to nurture a certain kind of human connection?  

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Source: www.pexels.com Another pal had dropped in last night. He’s doing his own business and seems to be doing well. And by that I mean, he’s fit. I think that, for me, it’s a pretty good indicator of where you are in life. He’s in shape so I’m guessing whatever hours he’s working is leaving him with enough time and cash to stay healthy and enough good sense to make that a priority. Anyway, we had dinner and he asked me if I wanted to join him because I apparently showed signs of being good at business (which is something no one had ever told me before.) Anyway, it’s odd the way he sees me and I’m a little wary of doing business with friends, etc. But he told me about this book ‘The Cash-Flow Quadrant’ by Robert Kiyosaki ,  the same person who wrote ‘Rich Dad, Poor Dad’. I’m not sure if I’ll ever do business but I do want more time and enough money to get as much time as I’d like. So, let’s see. Maybe I’ll read the book. Speaking of reading, I just finished reading 'Bird

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Source: www.pexels.com A friend had come over for coffee last night. Among the many things we talked about, he quoted Carl Sagan, “If you want to make an apple pie from scratch, you must first create a universe.” I loved it. He recommended Robert McKee’s ‘Story’. Although it’s a manual for screenplay writing, he mentioned that it might help me with plot my stories as well. I ordered a hard cover version from Amazon which will reach me in the New Year so yay! We discussed ‘Signature of All Things’ by Elizabeth Gilbert and just how marvelous she is. She is. She really is. Her work has some kind of patient unknotting, you know, that is difficult to articulate. It is a beautifully plotted book. I bought a packet of ‘thetcha’ which is a very, very delectable chilli and garlic paste you get in Maharashtra. It’s had as an accompaniment with chapatti and stuff. I love it. I absolutely love it. It’s just that I’ve always had it when it got made in my friends’ houses and stuff.

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Last night two friends came over. We sat in the balcony and opened a bottle of whiskey and I had a lot and I felt really bad, sad, and crappy today. But last night - was nice. We had lit three candles in the balcony. It was really pretty. I don't have too much recollection of what exactly we talked about but somewhere I just felt that there is too much information. Too many thoughts. Too much thinking about the thoughts and sharing those thoughts and changing those thoughts and then thinking about the change and whatever else. At some point, I slept in the children's room. The guys slept in the other bedroom - the one that was messy because it had all my clothes piled up on the bed. The poor guys had to clear all that to find the bed and then sleep on it. It was quite nice to wake up in the morning and to find the bed cleared. But I am done with whiskey, I think. Done with drinking. It is just not suiting me anymore. Mom is better at times and not so good at other times.

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Saturday night I slept next to my mom, very acutely aware of her breathing. I tried to sleep with a whole lot of nonchalance because I know that when I get anxious or agitated, it can really affect someone next to me. But I was listening to every inhale and every exhale very very keenly. Somewhere scared that it may stop. Early in the morning, though, Ma was very unwell again and she vomitted. But then she slept really peacefully. The fever broke and it seemed to be better the next day. Yesterday I returned to Pune and visited a pal. She has a really sweet labrador pup called Eli. I played with him a little bit. Actually not so much played as petted him while he scarfed down his food. Then just as it was time for me to leave, he came by with something grey and scruffy. I was told that it's his toy and he brings it out when he wants you to play with him. So those were the last three days.

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Today I woke up with a strange sense of well-being. It evaporated rather quickly on seeing my help sweep the floor that suggested she had some affection for dust and didn't want to see it go. But on the whole, it was a good feeling when I woke up. Later in the day, I'll be going to Pune to be with mom. And I was just thinking about it Some months ago, there was so much grief that I didn't know what to do and how to handle it. At that time, my mother helped me immensely. Today she is unwell and I have broken up. There is sadness now too but it feels different. Like this too will pass. It's like you first learn a coping method. Then you have to apply it in a seemingly more difficult situation. Then after you have been tested and you make the cut, hopefully, that situation never happens again. Interesting.  

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Pune has started to feel stifling now. I am very grateful to this city for allowing me to live a beautiful life drenched in peace and quietude. It perhaps was the closest I could have come to being a hermit, in the circumstances that were handed to me. In fact, during my second stint, I did believe that there was some unfinished business here and so I had to come back. I also felt exiled from Bombay and Delhi was no place to go. So, yes, Pune. Pune was the bandage I wrapped around my heart and being and it was good. But now, I think, it is not serving its purpose any more. I don’t know but what is it with the women here? Why are they always going on and on about age and getting older and what else is there in life and clothes and colors that don’t suit your skin tone if you get a particular age or whatever. Sometimes, the best thing that they find about me is that I don’t look my age. (I look younger…and apparently that is supposed to be a good thing.) But I am not sure if I got

524: Lifetimes

At work, there's a new girl who sits next to me. She somehow regards me as more capable than I am so today she asked me a banking related question. And banks, for all I know and care, could be like mauve piglets frolicking on the moon. But it turned out that I did know the answer to her question so I might be finally growing up and becoming worldly.  Then she asked me to play a game. We both gave each other 5 words and/ or phrases and we had to write something about it. These are the words she had given me:  Lake, A sky full of myriad stars, Tentative, Serendipity,  Summer night What I wrote It had been a lifetime Of give and take Of sipping serendipities From the frozen lake That’s how he was How he wanted to live Waltzing between certainty And things tentative We’d shared so many love stories Like myriad stars that flock the sky The story we share now had begun On a summer night when he’d wondered ‘why’ Why we met as strangers Around a froz

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How does one remember to be kind? Last night, I went to Koregaon Park with a friend. This morning i got news that my mom is very unwell. I have come into work - late. There's some stuff piled up and I can't focus on anything. Sometimes it is so crazy that it is very hard to even figure out what is going on. I think you just really have to take it one moment, one task, at a time.