It has been raining for a few days now. It's cold. Last night I was late at the co-working space. There was no cab or auto available for a good forty minutes. But I waited and came home finally. I felt good with the work I finished yesterday.
Today I slept for the most part but my mother had sent over two items of clothing. There's a thin, right red top from Chumbak. It has very pretty, colorful and embroidered cuffs. The other piece is a lovely military green jacket with a hood and a waist tie-up detail. Again, the cuffs are interesting - black and white stripes.
Yesterday I was talking to a friend and she said that she would not hesitate to date a married man because she owes nothing to the man's wife or the marriage itself. The man has taken the vow and it is his responsibility to honour it. I somehow don't agree. I would not go out with a married man and I also think that if a partner has started looking out, that marriage is very vulnerable. It may be saved if it did not have the weight and the complexity of a whole, big thing of a third person being involved. Sure, I am not married to the guy or that woman. But surely, I become complicit if something goes wrong?
I have a lot of friends, it turns out, who are okay with dating married men. This had somehow never occurred to me before. But I suppose it is what it is. The same values that may be difficult to take in a partner are perfectly okay to accept in a friend. Is that, maybe, a certain kind of hypocrisy? Maybe.
Anyway, I have only this much to write today. Have to start working now.
Today I slept for the most part but my mother had sent over two items of clothing. There's a thin, right red top from Chumbak. It has very pretty, colorful and embroidered cuffs. The other piece is a lovely military green jacket with a hood and a waist tie-up detail. Again, the cuffs are interesting - black and white stripes.
Yesterday I was talking to a friend and she said that she would not hesitate to date a married man because she owes nothing to the man's wife or the marriage itself. The man has taken the vow and it is his responsibility to honour it. I somehow don't agree. I would not go out with a married man and I also think that if a partner has started looking out, that marriage is very vulnerable. It may be saved if it did not have the weight and the complexity of a whole, big thing of a third person being involved. Sure, I am not married to the guy or that woman. But surely, I become complicit if something goes wrong?
I have a lot of friends, it turns out, who are okay with dating married men. This had somehow never occurred to me before. But I suppose it is what it is. The same values that may be difficult to take in a partner are perfectly okay to accept in a friend. Is that, maybe, a certain kind of hypocrisy? Maybe.
Anyway, I have only this much to write today. Have to start working now.
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