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 It started off as a desultory day and ended with overeating but still, here are the things I am grateful for, because of the dogged chase for all things jasmine-like. 

1. Papa is well. I didn't speak with him today but there were no frantic messages or calls. That is good.

2. A friend came over for lunch. She is an old friend and we had not been in touch for various reasons. But she came over and we discussed, among other things, Tumbadd and the tendency of some people who only talk about their past achievements became they are not relevant today. This friend and I were very close at one time. When we were in a low paying job, and would go to Fame Adlans or Fun Republic for a movie, I would sometimes wait at a business stop to catch a bus back to Bandra. Rickshaw rides seemed unaffordable. She would stuff money into my hand or my purse so that I had money to take an auto. Today it was good but I felt that something has gone. It will always be an affectionate meeting. But maybe we can both afford lots of auto rides and cab fares has erased something. C'est truly la vie.

3. Cook made some nice naachni parathas.

4. We went to Mokai and had a nice time.

5. She made tea for me with milk powder. It was so nice. My mummy had a best friend who used to make very good tea with milk powder. Strange...how things connect.

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